Online dating for single
With some goading from a friend — who somehow convinced me that the stigma against online dating was no more — I joined Ok Cupid and started scanning the thousands of matches that popped up on my screen.
Apparently, I wasn’t alone in my Valentine’s Day depression-induced hunt for Prince Charming.
Instead, both joined the site after ending long-term relationships and moving to a new city without many friends.
They both used the site to meet more people and go on more dates, while using their limited free time efficiently.
It only changes the process of discovery," says Mehr in Dan Slater's new book "Love in the Time of Algorithms: What Technology Does to Meeting and Mating." (Slater notes that Mehr was the only dating exec he interviewed who felt this way.)It’s the efficiency of this “process of discovery” that’s appealing to many daters.
The majority of the daters I interviewed (and Slater, too) at some point referred to online dating as a tool, and that’s just what it is.
A dating site is not a magic “fix” for your dating problems.
“If you don’t have a personality, it’s going to come across in an email, a phone call, or across a table,” said Larry K., 46, who met his wife on nine years ago.
The good news is that it’s probably only going to get better with time.
Slater believes that, as the popularity of mobile dating apps increases, sites will learn how to gather more valuable information.“Maybe it’s not the best means to the end of finding the best relationship, but it gives people a way to do something about their situation.