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know when the time to begin dating is right, if you simply listen to and trust in yourself -- and just as with a bruise, eventually, that tender spot in your heart does heal. Carole's latest book, has won the prestigious Books for a Better Life Award.
By all means, honor, keep and treasure the beautiful memories that you have; however, in order to both be fair to and enjoy someone new, you need to be able to put the Ghost of Relationship Past in its proper place. This means a life that is yours alone; a life that is individually gratifying in its own right. As a society, we are accustomed to either traveling in packs or with a spouse or significant other; however, you be content with your own company both within your four walls and in the outside world. I once dated a man who had not recovered from being broken up with in high school -- This gentleman made a conscious decision to be emotionally unavailable to anyone else because of one prior bad experience (in high school, no less).
Do you have your own career, your own hobbies, your own pursuits, your own set of friends with whom you play sports, lunch, drink or dine? This contentment will enable you to make wise decisions in your dating choices and when you do choose to introduce someone new into your life, it will be for all of the right reasons. Your emotional availability will have everything to do with two things; the amount of time that you have spent recovering from your divorce or the death of your spouse and your willingness to make yourself emotionally available.
Alternatively, tag along with a friend the next time their office has a company picnic or function -- this is a great way to meet somebody who you know is responsible enough to hold down a career and who you can 'check out' with an acquainted friend before you agree to a date.
in the Past We all tend to have "selective amnesia" when it comes to our previous relationships; remembering only the good in the people no longer in our lives and the wonderful memories that we will have always.You are entitled to live a life filled with happiness and if you choose it, that happiness can and should include another love by your side.You must realize and accept that there is reason to feel guilty about dating and/or seeking companionship once again. The Absence of Anger It is absolutely normal to feel angry at whatever circumstances ended your relationship.It could be something as silly as the "last ten pounds"... In time, it looks like the bruise is cleared up, yet when you push on the spot, it still smarts.
because of course, the key to absolute lifelong happiness is the loss of those last 10 pounds. Once you have isolated, identified, honestly addressed and moved forward from whatever it is that might be preventing you from dating again, you will then be able to enthusiastically jump into the dating world in a positive way. Similarly, there is a "bruise" of sorts on your heart that has been left as a result of a painful loss.That's fine of course -- but don't use the previous person as a "yardstick" against which you are measuring prospective dates.